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Nov 27, 2023Liked by Debbie Russell

I'm moved by your reflections on reconciliation. Your belief in the possibility of healing and rebuilding relationships, even after misunderstandings, is a powerful one. Reminds me that growth and understanding can emerge from even the most difficult situations.

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Nov 22, 2023Liked by Debbie Russell

Thank you for the reminder that we can choose our own versions of the holiday season. Liberating! I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Also, I adored Remarkably Bright Creatures 🐙

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Dysfuntional families? Never heard of it! Or, maybe, I've lived it so long it has become "normal!" Happy Thanksgiving to you and the dogs!

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Nov 22, 2023Liked by Debbie Russell

I have had my own struggles with family & am trying to navigate the holidays this year, questioning my decisions. What fun! Glad to hear I am not alone.

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Thanks for your comment, Jody. At my age, I consider ALL the relationships that I’ve been in over the course of my life: friends, family, romantic. At some point, I have to look inward and determine whether or not a particular one is serving me. I’ve done my share of chasing and will not do that anymore. That said, I look at today as simply a moment in time. My brother and I are estranged now, but who knows how it will be next week, next month, next year. By recognizing the impermanence of everything (except death), I’m really good.

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Happy Thanksgiving, Debbie. I enjoyed the bit about reconciliation, and I've just been thinking about how it's time for me to stop forcing a few people to speak to me. They have chosen to be hurtful at every turn, and instead of thinking I can out-positive them, it's time to let them go. That feels like an act of violence to me, and I can't expect they will ever reconcile with me, or that they will believe there's anything to reconcile about, but it's part of the puzzle to know going into a time of separation, that healing and reconciliation is possible.

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