It’s been a bit over four years since my dad died. Because my mother did not want to spend the money on a funeral - “It would only be for your friends,” she said to me – no funeral occurred aside from the pitiful affair in my parents’ living room, attended by my younger brother, our mother, the hospice chaplain and me. If there’s anything to be said in support of real funerals, it’s that regardless of one’s belief in an afterlife or heaven/hell, funerals provide a way to come together to honor the dead and support the living.
I am sorry for your loss and the word closure comes to mind because funerals allow those attending to celebrate the life of the person who has passed on. I think your coping mechanism is wonderful and I am sure your father is with you in spirit. I hope so.
I can't imagine what it would feel like to be neglected at such a high moment of need and emotion. What I do know is that I connected to you thoughts and feelings here, and I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry you didn't have the opportunity to grieve in a more meaningful way. Thank you for sharing.
So sorry for your loss. It must have been terrible for the funeral to be handled that way. I was fortunate to have written about my dad and speak at his funeral.
I am sorry for your loss and the word closure comes to mind because funerals allow those attending to celebrate the life of the person who has passed on. I think your coping mechanism is wonderful and I am sure your father is with you in spirit. I hope so.
I can't imagine what it would feel like to be neglected at such a high moment of need and emotion. What I do know is that I connected to you thoughts and feelings here, and I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry you didn't have the opportunity to grieve in a more meaningful way. Thank you for sharing.
So sorry for your loss. It must have been terrible for the funeral to be handled that way. I was fortunate to have written about my dad and speak at his funeral.