So I’ve been feeling a bit like Veruca Salt lately…remember her? That spoiled rich girl in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory whose memorable tirade “I WANT IT NOW, DADDY!” landed her down the chute with all the other bad eggs? Ugh. How gauche. Note to self: don’t get greedy.
I can relate to this having just published my memoir, and what helps me is to come back to my overarching goal beyond sales: who I hope to reach and how I can best do that. It’s not easy, but we’ll get there! Early days yet.
This is so honest and so wonderful!! For now, Debbie!! More to come!!
I also love this quote I got from a documentary I watched in 2020. There’s obviously benefits of being a flexible person and adjusting your course when necessary, but I love how Arnold really nails the importance of Plan A...
“Don’t listen to the naysayers. I’m telling you—I’ve never, ever had a Plan B. I say, ‘I made a full commitment... No matter what it takes, I will do the work. I will do the work over and over and over until I get it.’ I hate Plan B... When you start doubting yourself, that’s very dangerous. Because now what you’re basically saying is that if my plan doesn’t work, I have a fallback plan. I have a Plan B. And that means that you start thinking about Plan B. And every thought that you put into Plan B, you’re taking away now, that thought, that energy from Plan A.” —Arnold Schwarzenegger
You’ll be near me this weekend! I didn’t realize you had ties to San Diego. I am up in North County. Maybe I can make it down... loved your quote from The Daily Stoic. I’m a big believer in having a mental vision board and a Plan A and B for each quest. Regarding the peaks and lulls of writing: Author Malcolm Ivey likes to say “The journey is its own reward” to combat the occasional feeling that he’s “shouting into a hurricane.” He also says the writing has taught him to take the “longview” approach to many things in life :-)
I connected with this line, Debbie: "Just writing this makes me ashamed that I mostly feel exhausted. Exhausted from chasing after attention."
How much effort to sell ourselves, and it almost feels like nothing could be enough to make the sell worth it. Yet, here we are. Safe travels, and thank you for a revelatory discussion. My podcast listeners are better for hearing from you.